There is always a “thing behind the thing” affecting everything else.
My work began with my own questions
How do you keep escaping one situation only to feel trapped in another? How can you be who you want to be when you also are a people pleaser? How do you gain respect while being nice, compassionate and loving? Why does faith sometimes feel like it's not enough?
The answers formed some of the foundations from which I work with my clients.
Sometime last year I called my mom and tearfully told her about a dilemma. She gave me challenging advice about setting a boundary that I was avoiding as it would be uncomfortable to do. I was a little surprised by her fierceness, and when I thanked her she laughed, “I learned it all from you. I’m literally just repeating your words back to you.” Thanks for that day, Mom! Point is, this never ending work, and at different points of the journey we all need help. The human condition is that we can’t always see ourselves clearly.
Everything begins with your thoughts, so let’s work on your mindset.
Your mind, body, and HEart are connected
I believe it's up to you to protect what you're responsible for-- your mind, body, spirit, and how you show up in the world. Taking 100 percent responsibility for myself and everything in my life continues to be the hardest, and most empowering choice I make daily.
In high school I started mentoring younger teens through a church youth program. There I was first exposed to the reality of young girls cutting and making suicide attempts. Perhaps this was when the trajectory of my life formed as a passion to face reality head on, an urgency to free us all from the lies of shame, and the desire to find (and help others create) the feeling of belonging. During college, I taught life skills in a high risk school and started a grassroots reading program with a handful of neighborhood kids in Detroit. I went on to work with adjudicated youth programs, private mental health programs, wilderness therapy treatment for teens and as a parent transition coach for over 10 years. I became an ICF certified wellness coach to create a business in which I could cater to my clients' needs in ways outside of the box.
I did some other stuff...
In 2008 a special kind of crazy came upon me and I thru-hiked the Appalachian Trail. I later moved south, committed to multi-cultural marriage, became a step-mom to 2 lovely (now adult) children, moved into a church for a year of service, adopted a dog I’m obsessed with, and had a surprise baby that changed me all over again.
I love to hike, practice yoga, teach neighborhood kids gardening, re-warm my coffee 10 times a day and nurture my book and podcast addiction. I consider myself a co-dependent, perfectionist, overachieving people-pleaser in active recovery.
I have worked with many parents, pastors, college students, teens and I am always working on myself.
My coaching has changed lives by allowing women (and even some young men) safety and support to work on their inner life— those hidden motivations, secret thoughts, and unrealized beliefs, all while developing practical skills for the outer life. I work with private clients who are serious, ready to invest in themselves and actively make empowering changes.